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Other Common Roadblocks or Barriers

When asked, most people say their greatest blocks are lack of time, money or other resources, their circumstances, and other people. While it is true that these factors can complicate our lives, they are not at the root of many of our roadblocks. Our greatest challenges often lie within our own minds, in the form of attitudes, limiting assumptions, distorted perceptions, and belief scripts that hold us back. Instead of ignoring these attitudes and assumptions, we can recognize them as opportunities to learn something about ourselves. Uncovering them can help us move forward.

As you move through this life creation process, you will find yourself facing some of these roadblocks—within reach of all you imagined and uncertain how to continue. You identified some of these in Activity #3 you just completed. The next three activities will help you move through these barriers. First, let’s look at limiting assumptions and belief scripts.

Identify Limiting Assumptions or Belief Scripts.

The most tenacious block to a new idea or desire is a deeply-held belief about the way things are in the world. Such limiting assumptions make it impossible for your ideas to flow. Some examples include,

  • “It won’t do any good to ask my boss for a raise. I won’t get it anyway.”
  • “I’m too old to go back to school.”
  • “I’ll never save enough money for the dream vacation/home, etc. I really want.”

Keep on the look-out for assumptions you are making about yourself, or about the world that limit what you can do and how well you can do it.

“Belief scripts” are internalized perceptions about what people are supposed to do or not do. They are frequently associated with roles and our understanding of rules for those roles. Examples include,

  • “I don’t deserve any more than I now have.”
  • “Mothers should take care of everyone else first, or they are selfish.”
  • “Boys dream; men should put away their dreams and provide for their families.”

It is the attitude of feeling undeserving or not good enough that encourages responses such as “There’s no way I’ll . . .,” or “I’ll never . . . .”

“Feeling undeserving prevents you from clearing other obstacles from your path. This barrier has a voice of its own. It insists, No you can’t. You are not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, or pretty enough. You simply are not enough. You had better take what you can get.’” —Dr. Sidney Simon

When you see the harm of a certain belief script, you can change the ones holding you back to others more accurate and useful.

Module 2.4 Activity: Check out Belief Scripts & Limiting Assumptions

Answer the following questions: