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Notice Self-Talk

Moment by moment we make choices about where to place our focus. If our fears, worries, or what’s not working dominate our thinking, that is where our energy will be focused. Our self-talk powerfully impacts our intention and commitment.

Review the table below. Resistance language blocks our desires. These often unconscious phrases focus on what we can’t do, can’t control, or should do (and usually won’t). They accompany complaints, blame, and rationalizations. Doubt, fear, worry, and guilt fuel these thoughts and feelings.

Assuming that things won’t work or couching solutions in a negative way limits possibilities and options. It’s likely that as you begin identifying what you want in a certain area of life, critical thoughts bombard your mind, such as “I can’t,” or “There’s never enough money or time.” What you may really be saying is: “I don’t deserve this,” or “It’s too frightening.”

Noticing the “I can’ts” or the feelings of fear, etc. is the first step. Choosing to alter them from resistance to possibility is the second. When we acknowledge our habitual patterns of self-talk without judgment, we open more readily to alternative thought patterns. Continually practice the transformational thoughts and words that support possibility, dreams, and optimism, “I can,” “I will,” “I want to,” and “I promise.” These focus on what you can do, choose, and commit to accomplish.

Module 2.1 Activity: Resistance or Possibility